Stuck? Confused? How to make good decisions

 

Decisions

Decisions...

Decisions, decisions… some people embrace the process of making decisions, while others avoid it at all costs.

Some people seem to seamlessly and confidently make decisions in every area of their lives. Others drive themselves to oblivion trying to make the right choice.

The fear of making the wrong decision can drive some people into a state of  limbo, whereby things are put on hold for the unforeseeable future, or forever.

 

It’s like pressing the pause button of the movie of your life. Pausing can be useful sometimes, so long as you  remember to press play again soon!

If you are one of those people who thinks no decisions means no consequences, then let me tell you, you are wrong!

The consequences of a decisionless life are often far worse. I have coached clients whose self-esteem and confidence was shattered as a result of this.

Making decisions can be an empowering and very rewarding process when you know how to make it work for you.  So, how can you make  it work for you? Well, we usually make decisions based on:

 

– Impulse: Like, for example,  when you spend your weekly food budget on a new piece of clothing that you don’t even need. And, as a woman, I have totally been there! 🙂

– Past experiences: We tend to compare things, people and events to similar past experiences. But remember, similar doesn’t mean the same. And your past does not have to equal your future either!

– Future predictions: Yes, we like to think of ourselves as fortune tellers sometimes. But the truth is we are not.  Not me anyway! However, we often make badly constructed predictions that defy the laws of logic.

 

Sometimes it is important to follow our intuition. And it is just as important to weigh the pros and cons.

When faced with decisions, especially potentially life altering ones, allow yourself to take some time to write down the pros and cons. If you are not happy with the amount of cons you come up with, then ask yourself, how can you turn some or all of the cons into pros? and what do you have to do in order to do this?

By answering these questions you have started to think more usefully.

Getting advice from a trusted friend or expert can help too.  But ultimately, it is up to you to realize that uncertainty is part of life. When you allow yourself to embrace the unknown now, you are actually making life more interesting and exciting.

Sometimes we make great decisions, and other times we make crappy decisions. And that is ok. It is up to us to learn from our mistakes and keep on going, taking chances in life.

Has something truly unexpected and amazing happened to you as a result of a decision you made?

 

 

Anna

 

 

 

 



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