Why Strong Women Suck

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“Over and over again, people come to me, and they tell me, You just don’t know how strong I am. They say “strength” and I want to hear “balance.” The strength idea has effort in it; this is not what I’m looking for. Strength that has effort in it is not what you need; you need the strength that is the result of ease”

Ida P. Rolf (1896 – 1979)

Ida was a smart lady!

She was an American biochemist and the creator of Rolfing, a massage therapy used to reposition tissues under the skin.

Ida famously used to say that when she saw people move, she was looking for ease and efficiency, not strength and effort. One unleashes power, while the other hinders it.

“The more effort I see, the more compensations I expect to find” she said.

And I totally agree, on all levels. She might have been talking about the body, but I believe this applies to the mind too.

Are you the kind of woman who’s always trying to stay strong? Do you think of life as a struggle or a battle, and you must soldier on and keep fighting?

Notice the implicit effort thoughts like these suggest.

How long exactly are you going to be able to stay strong and soldier on for?

You’re only human after all.

We’re often hit with movies, songs, books and quotes that tell us to be strong and that when the going gets tough, the tough get going… but the truth is that keeping up that toughness is tough and impossible to sustain long term for most of us.

Something’s gotta give. And when we’re not being strong what are we being?

The opposite of strength is weakness.

By the spiritual law of resistance, the more you push against something the more it resists you.

If you think a thought or make a statement often enough it will access your unconscious mind. Some people have illness in their lives because they resist illness. If you are always thinking “I don’t want to be ill” the word “ill” will filter into your unconscious mind… making you ill sooner or later.

Some people stay overweight because all they think of is “I don’t want to be fat”.

Our brain works very much like a computer. You cannot tell a computer “not” to bring up a certain file if you’ve clicked on it, as it can’t accept negative instructions. It will assume you DO want that file and bring it up.

At the same time, if you apply force to a material, if you put a load on it, the material will distort under the stress caused by the load.

If you think of yourself as the material, and the load as a mixture of life’s challenges and the pressure you put yourself under to stay strong, in time the stress of the load will become unbearable, and something’s gotta give.

I know this, because I see this happen too often; I see women who’ve tried too hard for too long to be strong and have crumbled under the stress. I talk to women who tell me they’re embarrassed because they’re just not strong at all.

This is why I think strong women suck, and they get burned!

As a women’s coach, I don’t help my clients be stronger,  I help them become more balanced, well rounded and stable.

Because as Ida said, strength that has effort in it is not what you need; you need the strength that is the result of ease.

You don’t need to be strong to be happy 🙂

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