When People Try To Bring You Down

Has this ever happened to you…

You finally decide you’re going to take the bull by the horns and do something to improve your life. Be it losing weight, changing careers, taking up a new hobby… you think about it and you get all worked up with excitement. You even make a plan, or take that difficult first step… you just can’t wait to tell your family and friends!

But when you do you don’t get the high fives, “go for it”s and excitement that you need and hoped for. Instead you get…

“Don’t be silly, you look just fine…”

“I wouldn’t do that the way the economy is…”

“Why do you want to do that for…?”

Within seconds your bubble is flat as pitta bread and you start second guessing and doubting your decision.

A few weeks ago I decided to enter a fitness competition taking place in April. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do, not because I love to stand on a stage and show my hard and tanned bikini body to the world (eek!) but because of the physical and mental challenge it requires: discipline, dedication, self-confidence, motivation, hard work in the gym and the kitchen… there are many ways to develop these mind skills, and this is just one way that appeals to me.

As a sign of commitment I told pretty much everyone I know, husband, family, friends, clients… my husband is super proud and supportive –  one of the many reasons why I married him.

My family, let’s just say they’re used to my crazy ways! My friends and clients are also telling me to go for it.

Until I received an email from a man I’ve never met, who took it upon himself to let me know he disagreed with my decision and that me entering a bikini competition was setting a bad example for women with insecurities.

How would you’ve reacted to feedback like that?

I tell you how I did: I politely replied saying that thankfully my family, friends and clients, men and women, are extremely supportive of my decision. I said these people display the kind of attitude I admire and like to associate with. I also said I was going to unsubscribe him from my email list, which I immediately did.

As you know, in life, we may not be able to choose our family but we can pretty much choose everyone else we hang out with. And I don’t hang out with unsupportive people who try to project their own fears, limiting beliefs, insecurities and negativity upon me.

How about you?

I’m saying, do what you have to do, but…

Don’t Let Anyone Bring You Or Your Dreams Down

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  1. oh, gosh, Anna, why do people feel they need to stick their oar in. Good for you in going for it!

    You still scare me though!

    But I need to be scared! Are you doing the weight loss programme again in the new year – I’m on a mission to lose weight in 2013 but know I’ll never do it alone without a scary person behind me 🙂

  2. Lorna, I’m the least scary person ever! 🙂 I do do some crazy stuff though…
    Yes, the online weight loss program is ongoing, you can join whenever you want to at http://www.theweightlossattitude.com
    Got a bunch of people are lined up to start in the new year though if you need tons of support from more “scary” people
    ! 😉

  3. yes, I will sign up for the new year – weight is adding each year and I have a goal to work towards for 2013! (2 goals actually, one goal in 2012 didn’t work!)

  4. oh gosh, both to do with weight loss? Well, let’s make it happen next year! 🙂

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