Are you a big “but” person?
“I would, BUT…”
“I know, BUT…”
“I could, BUT…”
“I understand that, BUT…”
“I should, BUT…”
Big buts are usually precursors to statements like “I don’t have the time” or “it’s too hard” or “I’ve tried before and it didn’t work”…
The word “but” is often the introduction to every rationalization for mediocre performance, inaction, and self-pity.
Most people allow their environment to direct their actions: if you work for a boss who is not interested in your new ideas, you stop creating new ideas. If your co-worker avoids teamwork, you retreat to your desk and sulk. If your partner fails to hold their end of the bargain, you stop trying. If you haven’t followed your food plan perfectly for the whole week, you give up…
That three letter word can create big problems: Big but problems.
Your big but is a symptom. Not of what others do to you, but of a poor attitude.
Your poor attitude. And your poor belief system. So, what you need to do is get your butt in gear right now! How?
Here are 6 steps to help you eliminate your big but:
1. Start moving: The hardest part of any task is starting. Once you get moving, you will find that inertia will keep you motivated. This is not time to overthink or to feel, this is time to take action!
2. Give yourself a chance: If you give up a task or project at the first sign of adversity, eventually you will convince yourself that your next project is not worth starting. Instead, focus all of your energy on completing the task at hand, no matter what. It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be done to the best of your ability.
3. Build a powerful belief system: Powerful beliefs will beat big buts anytime. The bigger your own self-belief, the more likely you are to overcome any real or made up challenges.
4. Be bold: Do it anyway, regardless of your but! Basically, tell the devil on your left shoulder to just shut the heck up, and take the reins of your mind.
5. Exercise your freedom: Freedom to succeed implies freedom to fail. Even the best football players fail more often than they score . But the goals they score when they do score are the ones that make them win the match, and the ones we remember.
6. Know when to quit: Sometimes we fail. Sometimes shit happens. Quitting is a choice, and sometimes it’s the best choice. Most times though, it is not the best choice. Especially, if there are things you want to achieve in life. So, what are you going to do? Give up, or try something different?
The bottom line is: your biggest but is in your head!