Model to slim

In NLP Modelling is like walking down the catwalk of the mind of the person who displays the results you want to get.

Imagine that you admired your best friend’s body shape and wanted to look like them. If you were out for lunch with them and they had a tuna salad, and you chose to have a tuna salad too, what would happen is that you’d probably get the results that eating a tuna salad tends to cause. So, you’d probably feel healthy, light and happy with yourself for having made a good decision and followed through.

However, if all you did is copy what you friend does when you are with them, that does not guarantee that you would get to look anything like them.

It would be useful to model what they do the rest of the time too. Not just outwardly, but inside their mind.

Your behaviour is determined by certain seemingly obvious strategies; things that are so ingrained in your subconscious that have become automatic habits. These are determined by your own personal beliefs about yourself and the world, certain mind strategies and emotions.


Think about brushing your teeth. If I asked you how do you know it’s time to brush  your teeth, or what’s the first thing you do, and the next thing, and the last thing… you’d probably think I am crazy.

However, if  you have pearly white teeth and you tell me it’s because you brush them three times a day, I’m gonna want to know your strategy for pearly white teeth: What do you brush them with, when do you brush them, why do you brush them, how do you make sure you brush them all the time, what happens if  you miss a brush?

Does this make sense?

This process allows you to look at yourself and the world through someone else’s lenses, and slip into someone else’s shoes. And it can help you get what you want faster and more effortlessly than if you were to just copy or guess what someone else does.

Some magazines publish the diets and exercise programs of celebrities. Accompanied by an airbrushed photo of the celebrity looking amazing in their bikini, this can have a huge impact on easily impressionable readers.

It’s easy to think that if you eat exactly that and follow that exact exercise routine, then you’ll get to look like that.

However, if it was that simple, we would all look like models, right?

This is why when it comes to modelling someone whose shape, size or fitness abilities you admire, you want to make sure it’s someone who is worth modelling and something that is worth modelling too.

And that you do this knowing that you are unique and therefore you are working towards becoming a better version of yourself, not someone else.

So, when you get the chance to talk to someone you want to model, use these questions to elicit some of the strategies that will allow you to get what you want more quickly.

1/ Why do you do what you do?

For example, some people eat healthy and exercise because they want feel great and look slim and fit. Others do it because they don’t want to feel bad or look fat and unhealthy. Their motivation strategy might be different to yours.

2/ What has to be present when you do that?

People who enjoy exercising and who push themselves are running certain movies in their minds that crank up certain emotions, such as determination, motivation, energy, strength, playfulness… it’s easier to do what you need to do when you are in the right mindset. How do they get into this mindset? What do they do first, and then… and lastly?

3/ What do you do when things don’t go according to plan?

Do they have a back up plan, do they improvise, do they tell themselves “feck it” and do what they do anyway?

Modelling is not about copying, is about eliciting certain strategies that can be useful for you to start to practice them too and notice what happens!


Here’s a short excerpt of Richard Bandler talking about modelling:

Anna Aparicio is an Accredited IINLP/Hypnosis Mind Coach based in Dublin, Ireland.

She uses Neuro-linguistic Programming, Hypnosis and other psychology tools to develop profound and lasting changes in your life.

As a former fitness trainer and nutrition expert, she specialises in: weight loss, fitness goals achievement, eliminating cravings and overeating, performance enhancement, and boosting confidence and motivation.

Anna has featured on RTE’s The Afternoon Show as The Confidence Coach, and is highly recommended by The Irish Institute of NLP.

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  1. excellent article anna… explains modelling very well and the benefits it can yield.

    Keepem coming 😉

  2. Thanks Cormac! I may see you at the camps soon. Get ready cos I plan on kicking your butt! 🙂

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